Sorry for the slowness... lot's on!
My RF3 is a "facelift grill" with the mugen style body kit... There are a few options for grills... check out the various options
http://auctions.search.yahoo.co.jp/search?p=ステップワゴン+RF3グリル&auccat=&aq=-1&oq=&ei=UTF-8&slider=0&tab_ex=commerce
As for the front lights... I'm lookin...